These words of wisdom are from a past Groom I photographed. I had never really thought of it that way, but his words ring true. And, it’s the biggest reason why I try to steer the focus of my Brides and Grooms to savor the purpose of their marriage rather than the functions of the wedding. Christina and Robert were a great example of a couple that I didn’t have to coach towards remembering what’s most important. It just came naturally to them.
Robert is godly man and stable leader who has a deep kindness that makes everyone who encounters him feel valuable and “seen”. Christina is the very definition of joy. She is like the beacon of a lighthouse… I could feel when she was in the room, because the whole room lights up in her joy.
My coverage of their wedding started at the rehearsal dinner. There were multiple moments that I just so happened to see Robert lead Christina to the outskirts of the party so they could soak in all that was happening. They seemed to know how easy it is to let the weekend slip right through your fingers like grains of sand. They purposefully paid attention to every granule, observing the beauty of each person who came to celebrate their love, appreciating the role they played in their lives and honoring their presence.
From the start of the day until the final goodbyes, Christina and Robert remained grounded in the heart of their wedding. They were solely focused on their marriage over the functions of the wedding. I think it’s a beautiful lesson that can help future brides and grooms remember to savor their day.
All of the people that you love most have gathered to together to celebrate the union of your two lives. Rather getting caught up in whether or not that shade of pink in the flowers is perfect, focus on the celebration of your lives. That’s the part of your wedding day that will remain vivid in your memories for years to come.